Tip #4/10: Address Her Biggest Complaint About You

Tip #4/10:  Address Her Biggest Complaint About You

I’m excited to share the 4th tip in this 10 Quick Tips to Warm Up Your Relationship series:  Address your partner’s biggest complaint about you.

If you’re like 99% of the smart lesbians I work with, you know what your partner’s top 3 or 4 complaints are about you – and, deep down, you’ll probably agree that they’re legitimate complaints.

We won’t wander into the weeds of why you haven’t already addressed her biggest complaints, in this email.

But trust me…if you want your relationship to thrive and for your partner to be loving and attentive…it’s time for you to change a thing or two.

So today, I want you to make a decision and do at least one thing that addresses her biggest complaint about you. Just one thing.

It starts with a decision – and it has to be followed up with action.

Is her complaint that she never gets any alone time? Then make plans to do something with your sister or friend this evening so she can have the house to herself.

If her complaint is that you don’t do your share of the household chores, roll up your sleeves and do a load of laundry, vacuum, or mow the grass.

Is she frustrated because you walk away when she brings up a certain topic? Surprise her by inviting her to talk about it. Then, listen calmly and ask lots of questions. You only have to listen and not find a solution.

Take a minute to identify the thing that bugs her the most about you, and make a change.

See what happens when you address what she finds so frustrating. I promise it will be good!

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Here’s a list of our past Tips to Warm Up Your Relationship