FAQs

Can therapy really help us? Or is it too late?

Yes, therapy can really help!

If you have even the slightest willingness to work on your relationship and yourself, therapy can absolutely help turn your relationship problems around!

In fact, we’ve even helped couples reunite after they’ve been separated for awhile. And we’ve seen therapy save marriages after they’ve filed for divorce.

Upon realizing that they have problems, most couples wait 6 years to get counseling. If you’re struggling, don’t wait another minute to get help. Otherwise, it’ll just get worse.

We welcome you to come work with us if you:

  • want to fix your communication problems
  • crave more connection, intimacy, and fun
  • seem to be fighting way too often
  • feel uncertain about the future of your relationship
  • are on the brink of a break-up or divorce
  • and your partner are struggling with the discovery of an affair
  • don’t feel secure in your relationship
  • want to be proactive and deepen your love
  • wish to build a great foundation as you make a long-term commitment
What if my partner won’t come with me to couples counseling?

Come without her!

You and your relationship can still benefit a ton, even if you’re the only one in the therapy room. Both of you have a part in the negative patterns you’re stuck in as a couple.

Your therapist will help you identify the things that you’re doing or saying that contribute to your relationship issues. Then, as you begin making little changes and improvements, your relationship will get better, too.

Even if your partner refuses to come with you to therapy, you can get clear on the root of your relationship problems.You can learn how to calm yourself down when you’re upset. And, you’ll get better at expressing your feelings, thoughts, and wants to her. All those things can make a huge positive difference.

Let us show you how you can still save your relationship even if you’re the only one who wants to try.

Do you do individual therapy at LCI? Or just couples therapy?

We definitely offer individual therapy as well as couples therapy.

The goal here at the Lesbian Couples Institute is to help lesbians and queer women feel better! About yourself, about life, and about your relationship.

We want to equip you with new skills and tools that will help you cope with whatever life throws at you.

We’ve tried couples counseling before and it didn’t help. Should we bother trying again?

Sadly, we get it! We’ve had lots of clients with this very experience. 

But your relationship is worth another shot. Let’s see if we’re a better fit for you and your partner. 

Since we specialize in lesbian relationships, we believe we may be a great match for you. It’s our mission to quickly help women like you get out of pain and create a relationship that thrives.

Can you guarantee that we’ll solve all our problems and stay together after therapy?

Ah! Wouldn’t that be nice? But alas, there are no such guarantees in life.

Here’s what we can tell you…

If you both show up willing to take responsibility for your part in the mess you’re in AND you’re each motivated to make things better—the odds are enormous that you can create a secure and happy relationship for the long haul.

Are you going to tell us we should break up?

No! Frankly, it’s not our decision to make. And we’re in the business of saving relationships if at all possible.

We want to help you work things out. One of our goals is to make sure that lesbian couples have a lower divorce rate than straight couples.

As your therapist, our job is to help you sort out your feelings and thoughts so you can decide what is best for you!

The only time we might suggest a temporary separation is if there’s any form of violence or abuse going on in your relationship. Then, we would recommend you separate while you each go to individual counseling before trying to work on your relationship as a couple.

Can therapy help us save our relationship after an affair?

Absolutely! Therapy can help you not just survive an affair, but repair the shattered trust and create a better relationship than you had before the betrayal.

Of course that hinges on your willingness to do a lot of repair work, be open and honest moving forward, and learn to communicate about the hard stuff.

We suggest your read Michele Weiner-Davis’ book: Healing From Infidelity, in the meantime.

What are your fees?

Honestly, it depends! We offer several different types of services. And our therapists have varying levels of education and experience.

We will work with you to find the best service and therapist to help you meet your goals.

When you give us a call, we’ll be delighted to go over fees with you!

Do you take insurance?

The therapists here at The Lesbian Couples Institute are out-of-network providers for health insurance companies. You’ll be responsible for the full fee.

Should you request it, we will gladly provide you with the appropriate documentation to submit to your insurance company for reimbursement. Any reimbursement you receive is between you and your insurance provider.

Just know that mental health insurance benefits vary depending on your particular insurance coverage. To determine if you have mental health coverage, check with your insurance company to find out answers to the following questions:

  1. How much does my plan pay per therapy session for an out-of-network provider?
  2. Does your plan cover marriage therapy? (Many plans do not.)

Other things you should know about insurance:

Your health records may not be confidential once insurance gets involved. They can demand therapy notes from your therapist.

  • Before any services are covered, you will be given a mental health disorder diagnosis. In many cases this diagnosis can be used against you when applying for certain jobs, life insurance benefits, as well as legal/court issues that might come up in the future.
  • Don’t forget Health Savings Accounts or Flex Spending dollars. If you have tax-free money deducted from your paycheck for Medical Savings, you can use that to pay for therapy.
  • Please note that insurance will most likely not cover couples retreats

By paying privately for therapy, you will have the choice, flexibility, privacy, and expertise needed to help your relationship go from difficult to great.

How can I justify the expense of couples counseling?

Excellent question! Good couples counseling isn’t cheap.

That’s why we’re committed to keeping your therapy efficient and effective.

Think of it like this…

You usually find the money to pay for the things that are most important to you.

Americans spend thousands of dollars on vacations, entertainment, restaurants, and hobbies. As well as health clubs, diets, supplements and meds for their other physical wellness. Don’t let your emotional and mental health be less important!

Research shows that the number one predictor of life-satisfaction and well-being is having a secure primary relationship.

BTW, therapy is much cheaper than divorce (average cost for a divorce in the US is $15,000)! Therapy is an investment in your future.

The bigger question is…how can you not justify investing in therapy if it means having a thriving, vibrant, secure relationship?

If you knew you would be happier, less lonely, more connected, and greatly relieved after therapy wouldn’t you go for it?

How do I get started?

We know that starting counseling can be hard, and we want to make the process as easy as possible. Just call our office at (303) 222-7134 to get started. Or, you can complete our contact form and we will contact you.